CGC: College Girl Code Friends vs. Boyfriends
ZW -an anonymous college girl, Staff Writer
April 12, 2012
Filed under Opinion
When it comes to new boyfriends, there are a million thoughts and feelings rushing through our heads and, of course, our hearts. If we’re the one with the new boyfriend, then we can sometimes get to the point where we can’t eat, sleep, talk or breathe. Sometimes falling for a new guy can make you act unlike yourself, like someone that‘s on a completely different planet.
We all know and understand that finding yourself in a new relationship is fun and exciting and we all can get caught up in those things. You may not even notice yourself transforming into a crazy person, but I’m here to tell you that your friends will most definitely notice and, chances are, they won‘t be happy about it.
Your friends will tolerate you talking about this new boyfriend on a regular basis for a few weeks, but they’re eventually going to start getting annoyed. They are going to want to punch you in the face if you speak another word about him. Does this bother you? Do you care that much about what your friends think of your boyfriend? Is it a deal breaker if they don’t like him?
It’s sad that this is even a question, but there are some girls who don’t take their friends’ opinions into consideration. Many girls have lost close friends due to becoming too swept up by the fact that they have a guy. Sometimes, if a couple breaks up, the girl will realize what has happened and it’s too late to mend things with her now ex-best friend(s).
When it comes to relationships, yes, it does boil down to you and your guy at the end of the day, but your friends should still matter. If your friends aren’t keen on the guy you’re dating, it does matter, even if you don‘t think it should.
That doesn’t mean that just because they don’t like him that you shouldn’t date him. It just means you should take their opinions into consideration, and make your decision from there.
A lot of girls will put themselves into the mindset that “if my friends don’t like my guy, then they aren’t my friends.” However, you should strive not to place yourself in this horrible predicament. You have to trust that they don’t bear these feelings due to jealously or hate, but that their reservations stem from their love and care for you. If they have a good reason for disliking the guy (if he’s a jerk, rude or possessive), then weigh their opinions more heavily than if they dislike him merely because you’re spending more of your time with him than with them.
You should not go dumping your guy for your friends just because they can’t share you with someone else. Realizing whether or not your friends’ opinions are heartfelt can prove difficult to decipher, but as time goes on, it should become more apparent whether or not they care for you and your well being.
In time, we come to realize that guys will come and go but friends, true friends, last a lifetime. Do your best not to lose friends due to a guy, because, in the end, you will most likely come to regret it. Likewise, make sure not to lose your guy just because your so-called friends don’t like to share. I wish you all luck with your friendships and new relationships! Enjoy!
College Girl out!